My top 10 list
The art of saying no to guys can be a very tricky thing. You don’t want to come off as conceited and mean, but at the same time you don’t want to give the other guy hope. Having been both successful and unsuccessful in situations such as these I decided to come up with a top 10 list of things to say or do when rejecting the opposite sex:
10. Whenever possible play the dancing game. When the guy leans in to talk, you lean back. When the guy looks you in the eye, look away. Always counteract the other person’s move. By doing this, you are telling the person to maintain their current distance and that any advances are not welcomed.
9. Avoid eye contact. This is obvious, but when avoiding eye contact also make sure to not be blushing or smiling as this could be taken as “playing hard to get.”
8. Be non-responsive. Keep you answers short and to the point and never ask questions back or pretend to be anything more than just “politely” interested in what the other person is saying.
7. Walk away. If you are with friends pretend that your friends are the most interesting things in the world and that you cannot imagine a moment with them by your side, even if this new person is “really cute.” (And don’t be afraid to say this either, then you can avoid the whole “mean” thing)
6. Stare at them when they are talking and keep asking them to repeat themselves because you do not understand or cannot hear what they are saying.
5. Tell them that you have smelly feet or fart in front of them.
4. Lie and tell them you have a boyfriend, are gay, or just not interested in pursuing anything right now.
3. Pretend to be distracted by another person of the opposite sex and stare at that person until it becomes uncomfortable for all 3 people.
2. Take a couple of drinks in front of the person and then blame it on the alcohol when telling them about how they are “so not even worth talking to, let alone date.”
1. Tell them the truth, that they are not attractive, not personable, not worthy, or just plain not your type.
10. Whenever possible play the dancing game. When the guy leans in to talk, you lean back. When the guy looks you in the eye, look away. Always counteract the other person’s move. By doing this, you are telling the person to maintain their current distance and that any advances are not welcomed.
9. Avoid eye contact. This is obvious, but when avoiding eye contact also make sure to not be blushing or smiling as this could be taken as “playing hard to get.”
8. Be non-responsive. Keep you answers short and to the point and never ask questions back or pretend to be anything more than just “politely” interested in what the other person is saying.
7. Walk away. If you are with friends pretend that your friends are the most interesting things in the world and that you cannot imagine a moment with them by your side, even if this new person is “really cute.” (And don’t be afraid to say this either, then you can avoid the whole “mean” thing)
6. Stare at them when they are talking and keep asking them to repeat themselves because you do not understand or cannot hear what they are saying.
5. Tell them that you have smelly feet or fart in front of them.
4. Lie and tell them you have a boyfriend, are gay, or just not interested in pursuing anything right now.
3. Pretend to be distracted by another person of the opposite sex and stare at that person until it becomes uncomfortable for all 3 people.
2. Take a couple of drinks in front of the person and then blame it on the alcohol when telling them about how they are “so not even worth talking to, let alone date.”
1. Tell them the truth, that they are not attractive, not personable, not worthy, or just plain not your type.
posted by chen at 11:37 AM
6 Comments:
This past fall, I had a 24-year-old male violin student. Towards the end of our 10-week session, it became apparent that he was interested in asking me out... I can't even remember all the evidence now, but I remember that it conclusively pointed in a direction in which I didn't want to go. So I began employing techniques 10, 9, and 8... keeping the lessons strictly professional and avoiding conversation of personal life. Unfortunately, at the end of the 10th lesson, he asked if I would ever let him take me out to dinner, to which I replied "probably not". Good ol' #1. Though I was completely ready to whip out #4 (fake boyfriend) if it came down to it.
Okay, maybe I really should resurrect my own blog... posting so often on everybody else's is starting to make me feel slightly parasitic. And yet, it's so fun...
This is why the reasonable thing for both men and women to do is never pursue romantic relations of any kind and then none of the ten tactics are necessary.
Ha ha Jordan - I've had that thought plenty of times. I fully believe that two people who both really liking each other, are really good for each other, and having it work out is an urban myth.
Nicole - You're fun - don't stop posting on everyone's blogs - we all really appreciate you.
Chen - You are just too damn hot to be let out in public too often.
Laura and Jordan,
People always say "This is why the reasonable thing for both men and women to do is never pursue romantic relations of any kind and then none of the ten tactics are necessary." But we all know this is a bunch of crap and that in the end everyone wants a relationship of some sort.
Laura,
I am not out in public that often. My post came about because of my interaction with the Taco Bell guy yesterday. I had to employ tactic 10 and 9 while ordering my food
Nicole,
Good job on avoiding a date...although him asking you out is horribly awkward enough.
Yes Chen, everyone wants it and very few have it. The irony of this situation makes me laugh and feel better about the world as a whole :) It really is pretty funny. And then I read about MA's socialist medicine and the mirth flees....
If they asked you out and you don't want to go out with them... just chuck the glass of icy cold water at them. Yes. This is for the good of both of you.
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