Vanilla

Work today is very slow. Already I have submitted an application for a conference in Chicago and updated my resume, and I still have two more hours to go.
I thought today I'd share of my wisdom and insights on dating. These are not really wisdom or insights, rather they are just thoughts or snipits of conversations that I have had with people. The reason I'm choosing to do this is because I had a long talk with a really good friend of mine about this topic and so I thought I'd share my advice with everyone. My friend is going back out with her exboyfriend, this in and of itself does not bother me. What I find rather peculiar is that she does not really seem to like her ex all that much. My conclusion of the matter is that she is settling. (There was a lot more to this conversation that led me to this conclusion.) Settling isn't so bad if its for a brief period in time, but not for the rest of your life. My friend's ex is like vanilla to her. Everyone likes vanilla and is willing to eat it, but no one wants vanilla for the rest of their life.
And this has been my conclusion. Everyone has a back-up or back-burner person, someone who is their vanilla. That person is comfortable, fun, and you can even be attracted to that person- but there is just no chemistry. And the hardest thing for girls (and guys) in their 20s to do is to not date their vanilla.
(*Just a note, I understand some people actually love vanilla. I use the vanilla as an example, you may replace vanilla with any flavor that you chose)